Don’t forget the little people?

Don’t forget the little people

There’s a common trend in society today where people come together based on their shortcomings. We have chat rooms, blogs, and support groups that form based on some form of brokenness, or weakness. 

On a smaller scale, you’ve probably heard people complain about small things going wrong in their lives, or how they’re tired, or upset, or (fill in the blank). Their dim view of their current situation naturally spews forth.

So, what happens when you talk about what’s right for your life? What if you begin sharing your dreams, your excitements, or your accomplishments?

Many times people can’t relate to you based on their own current perspective of the world. 

Now, I’m not saying that all of those people have a “glass is half empty” standpoint. They might not even realize what they’re saying, or the energy that’s behind their words. 

Many have been habitually trained—often without even consciously thinking about it—into more negative thought patterns and word choices. Therefore, when you’re sharing what’s great in your life, there are people who are bound to respond,  “Don’t forget the little people.”

What they’re really saying is “I feel small compared to your grandiose visions, lifestyle, or choices.”

But, just because they feel small doesn’t mean that they are small. I strongly believe that there are no small people. 

We are all Divine, spiritual beings with unique gifts and specific purposes here on Earth. And, we’re meant to have the most joyful human experience possible. So, when you are living with excitement and inspiration, you know you are on your path. Any negative feelings are just an indicator to redirect your course. 

So, if you encounter someone who has forgotten their own power or has lost sight of their own dream, how do you respond? Some feel guilty for their success (which invokes sympathy for them and takes you out of alignment with your highest self).

Others try to appease their small-feeling friends by reminding them that they’re really great, too. You can express appreciation for their friendship and support. 

How could you possibly forget them? They’ve been with you for so much of your journey. (You use empathy here, but can be defensive and unable to help with really changing their viewpoint)

The best way to deal with them is to express compassion. With compassion, you recognize that another person’s words aren’t about you, really. It’s about them. You are able to remain balanced, confident, and honest with everyone involved. You know who you are and where you are headed. You can see the highest potential for the person with you and hold the space for their expansion. 

What I’ve found over the years is that it’s the gift of discernment, through compassion, that allows you to know when to share your heart. There are friends whom you know and trust with your deepest desires. You can truthfully share your passions and your successes, for they celebrate them with you as if they were their own. 

However, there will always be others who haven’t reached your level of confidence or purpose. They might feel small compared to your success. That’s okay. You don’t take this personally. You can love them for who they are and where they’re at, knowing what’s possible for them if they choose to take the leap.

A conversation with this friend of family might employ more listening on your part, of the use of direct positive communication by asking questions about them. In any case, you stand boldly in your truth, and know theirs—that you both are bigger, bolder, and brighter than your physical bodies could ever express.

And, with this in mind, you honor the greatness in us all.

Kym Coco- Author, “It Just Makes Sense”Founder of Solution-Oriented Therapy

www.kymcoco.com

Don't forget about the little people?