What-I-Want-In-A-Partner lists

The List Goes On...

There are many types of lists: bucket lists, 3-5 year plan lists, to-do lists, grocery lists…the list goes on. Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed I make a list. 

It is usually simple: When I feel I may be running late, I might make a timed list to keep myself on track. Sometimes I make a list when I feel a little anxiety setting in, even when I am not sure what the uneasiness is about. 

That kind of list usually consists of the things I want to do for the day. I put a cute little box next to each line and love it when I get to check them all. Well done. That works for me. And then there are those What-I-Want-In-A-Partner lists.

I didn’t think there was anything wrong with my list until I heard it out loud. During a conversation with a new friend about relationships, I dug up “the list” on my computer. I read it to her out loud and we ended up laughing out loud. Sure, there were many important qualities on the list, but some things were down-right ridiculous. 

I’m almost embarrassed to say that my list actually stated: Must have great eyesight, and Must love angels. I smile when I think about the ridiculousness. Of course I was keeping that person at bay, because he doesn't exist!

My friend helped me to select the truly important qualities on the list. Now, although I have no clue where the revised list is, what I want is definitely in my heart. And my heart is open.

-Amadella Clarke, Author of "The Keys are Inside"

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