Fully Present
The best gift a friend could give me is their full presence when they are spending time with me. That is what I call a genuine relationship or creating a genuine bond. They are giving me their full presence because they really care how my day was or what I might be struggling with.
I really enjoy doing this for friends and I know that is the best gift I can give a friend. Every conversation, appointment or party we have the opportunity to give someone our full presence. The more we practice, the better we get and the more genuine bonds we will create with a stranger, a family member or friend.
This simple tool of presence can create more quality relationships in one month than in an entire year any other way. It may be hard to not think about what your going to say next or how their story relates to a different story that you have experience, but staying fully present when someone else is talking is key to really understanding. For example, my sister went through a week where we had multiple conversations about changing jobs. When she would talk about the two different job opportunities, I could hear an underlying nervousness. Making this decision was important to her and she just need someone to listen and ask more curious questions. My sister never said she was nervous or that this was really important to her but as she was talking, that is what I could hear. The skill of presence is what helped me really hear what she was saying.
In turn, we were able to come to a decision that made her feel calm and comfortable. I enjoyed being there for my sister, really listen and give her my full presence. She has done this for me more times than I can count on both hands and has also helped me make some of the most important decisions in my life. It was her compassionate presence that help me realize what I really wanted in so many situations. Her genuine curiosity always helps me move from confusion to clarity.
I am grateful for the power of presence and how it can create a genuine bond between sisters, strangers or friends. The greatest gift a friend can give me is their full presence! It's free, simple and beautiful!
Just Live It!
Julie Corrine
www.JulieCorrine.com
Author, "Finding Your Piece"
Life Coach & Motivational Speaker
fully present
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