Breaking your own heart

Are you breaking your own heart? 

“And even with the light all around you

You're all alone in the dark.

You're breaking your own heart

Taking it too far down the lonely road

You say it's just one love

But when it's close enough you just let it go

The very thing you've been the most afraid of

You've been doing it from the start,

 breaking your own heart.”

Jennifer Hanson/Michael Logan

How long have you been breaking your own heart?

How long have you been trying to create something new, something beautifully profound, but creating it the same old way?

If you use rotten or warped wood to build a house, what do you get? An unsafe building that will fall on you!  So how do you think can create a deep authentic lasting love, if you are creating it with the patterns you have used in all of your failed and unfulfilled relationships of the past. You can’t, you have to die to the old way of being, and grow a stronger, more whole you.

Albert Einstein said that the “definition of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” 

I know that change is scary; I have felt this terror many times. In my professional life I have met many clients who are more willing to lose their legs then stop smoking or change their diet (to improve blood glucose readings). So the fundamental question is what are you, willing to give up or lose to bring a strong healthy love into your life? Are willing to give up old ways of being and thinking, patterns you have acted out for most of your life. Patterns are made of behaviors supported by recurring thoughts.

Are you willing to stop breaking your own heart?

“The bottom line for everyone is, “I’m not good enough” It’s only a thought and a thought can be changed.” Louise L. Hay

The love that most of us want, crave really, is a deep true love. Where you are seen, heard and met on the same level. Where we create an atmosphere that celebrates you and your beloved’s uniqueness and honors the combined strength and beauty you bring to each other by your commitment. I believe that each of us was created with an unending capacity to love and be loved, but we stand helpless as one after another relationship fails. 

What false love identity are you living from, in that small painful moment in your childhood what falsehood about yourself did you make true? 

Did you decide you where unworthy, invisible, bad, a burden, a failure, etc.

I don’t know what made you as a child decide on this false love identity. It may have been well meaning parents, who were busy trying to provide for you that made you feel “invisible” or maybe it was dysfunctional parents caught up in the throes of an addiction who made you feel “bad”. The variations are endless, but when we live from an unhealthy love identity. We call in partners that confirm this false belief about ourselves. I’m not suggesting we do this cognitively. But unconsciously we call people who make us feel like home, and we for them.

“This thing of darkness, I acknowledge as mine.” Shakespeare

But you can choose to not act from this broken understanding of yourself. Because truly you where never broken to start with. You just tried to make sense of life and interpreted though the lens of a child. I believe that we can make a heaven on earth if we want, from a stronger more whole self. One that knows that they are a miracle created by the divine, there is no flaw in you! The very concept of God is that God is infallible therefore logic dictates in truth you are perfect because for God to make something less than perfect, would make God less than God. 

It is our choice to live beneath our potential; we can choose to dim our light. It is living from this true knowledge of ourselves that allows us to change our thought and therefore create new patterns of behavior.

So take a deep breath, sheet of paper and a pen, the journey starts here. Start to look at your life, dig deep be brutally honest with yourself: 

What is your pattern, what thinking has got you here? 

It’s time to stop breaking your own heart... 

And start thinking and acting from a stronger healthier sense of self. I will stand in possibility with and for you. We will hold space and one day soon you will know the embrace of your beloved. Made from your dreams and the most amazing part you will be the partner of their dreams too. Sending angels winging toward you, to love and support you though these changes. To hold you, encourage you despite any fears or limitations you think you have. They believe in you and I believe in you, No one was created to be alone.

“I dreamed last night that oh marvellous error that there were honey bees in my heart making honey out of my old failures.” Antonio Machalo

In love and light,
Jenna
Calling in the “One” coach


It’s time to stop breaking your own heart.